As the introduction article stated, there are many ways to use language to describe sex. Each culture and groups have certain words, phrases or innuendos to describe body parts and activities. Counselors should be aware of the terms and even slang words that are used to describe sexuality thus these words can be offensive and hinder the counseling process (Murray, Pope & Willis, 2017).
Example of a Statement
As I sat and thought of a scenario, I did my best to understand that there are words, phrases and even slag that can or even cannot be used during a counseling session. I agree with the rest of the class that it might depend on the type of client you have. There might be a scenario where a client might find the counselor’s straight forward attitude to be offensive. While another client might take it to bond and build that client-counselor relationship.
However, there are times that a sexuality therapist may conduct a session and make a statement or even ask a question that a client might feel is inappropriate (Hendricks, Bradley & Robertson, 2015). For example, a woman goes to seek guidance from a sex therapist about her and her husband’s intimacy issues. She tells the counselor that she thinks her husband is homosexual because he enjoys self-pleasure. The woman firmly believes that self-pleasure is a sign or symptom of being homosexual.
In this moment a sexuality counselor might ask the woman has she ever engaged in self-pleasure. Conversations about self-pleasure or masturbation are quite personal, therefore at this moment I can see a client being offended by the question or find the question to be inappropriate. However, I can also understand the purpose of such a question. With a yes or no type of question, a counselor could be trying to gather as many details as possible to identify what factors are influencing the client’s mentality on self-pleasure.
Counselors should continue to be mindful that the words we choose and use as humans play a significant role in how we see the world and how others view us and interpret our statements and feelings. In the topic of slang words, word choice becomes the focus of how counselors address their clients (Shevell, 2009). An appropriate slang word that counselors can use is the word clients. Surprising enough many individuals feel that the word client is slang for patient. Because the word patient is more of a medical term that means the one who suffers, individuals seeking services may feel more comfortable being called a client than a patient during counseling sessions (Shevell, 2009).